Dating someone in an open relationship
This isn’t an article about whether or not attempting to initiate a threesome is right or morally justifiable.If everyone involved willingly participates, then guess what: there is no need to bring judgment or questions of right and wrong into the equation.Say, for example, that one of the girls isn’t necessarily bisexual, but has only considered hooking up with a girl.
If they don’t hit it off, the worst thing you can do is try and force them to get along. Dating two girls at once is essentially one big relationship, and if all three of you aren’t on the same page, it’s just not going to work out.Trying too hard to make it happen shows a lack of self-control, and in a delicate situation like a threesome, can make everyone uncomfortable.The main reason most guys can’t date two girls at once is because they don’t focus enough on the process itself: the dates, the hanging out, the getting to know one another. It’s counterintuitive, but if you focus on the in-between stuff, and make sure that there’s plenty of honesty about what’s going on, things will happen organically.In my practice as a relationship consultant and expert in polyamory, I routinely encounter people who love each other dearly and have drastically different relationship needs.Most often it is a man who wants to have a polyamorous relationship and a woman who wishes to remain monogamous, but sometimes it is the woman who wants to be poly and the man who is devoutly monogamous.