Asian men dating problems
Lena, for example, says she has been singled out on sites like Ok Cupid because she was mistaken for Korean.Upon realizing she was Cambodian, some men would simply abandon the conversation."I felt unwanted or unattractive because I wasn't really a Korean girl," said Lena.And the reaction rapidly expanded beyond the internet. Simons (@simons400kg) January 12, 2017 LOL at Steve Harvey thinking no one is attracted to Asian men.Prominent Asians, from author Eddie Huang, denounced Harvey—the latter in a massively shared op-ed for the New York Times. These pics of Vincent Rodriguez III & Harry Shum Jr beg to differ…But Harvey’s recent comments regarding Asian men can’t be as easily dismissed.Essentially, Harvey told his audience that he couldn’t imagine any way an Asian man could ever be deemed attractive—causing a social media eruption by playing into long-standing stereotypes of Asian males as emasculated and nonsexual.The funny thing is, I’ve met many of these guys, and they’re smart, funny, and talented—a few are also (secretly) a bit geeky and weird.
I can only imagine what 13-year-old me would’ve thought about being told I’d have to measure up to exemplars of masculine physical perfection like Daniel Henney, Godfrey Gao, or Justin Kim.
Where’s the list of “hot” Asian men featuring Masi Oka, who changed my life when he put the Hiro in Intellect, wit, charm, sweetness, political savvy, and kindness may not show up as clearly in photographs, but these qualities last longer and wear better.
So next time Steve Harvey takes aim at Asian sexiness—or lack thereof—maybe we should reconsider flooding Twitter with pictures of Asian men with six-packs.
The ultimate goal should be to banish negative ethnic stereotypes once and for all.
For Asian women, that includes not reducing a complex person into a fantasy all the while erasing diversity within Asian communities.