40 year old man dating 30 year old woman
In fact, you could reasonably equate the two; more often than not, you wait for too damn long for a thrill that’s over in under 3 minutes and half the time you’re wondering what the big deal was.There is no difference between a person who has had sex and someone who hasn’t.Regardless, big data is often very revealing about people’s real preferences – height, weight, age, income, sex, and so on.The one problem with big data is that it removes the human element – and dating is very much about human connection. I think the attraction to 20 year olds is in large part biological.Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer.Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were.20 year old men prefer 20 year old women. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.Even a woman’s hymen is no demarcator of virginity; many will rupture their hymen long before they’ve had penetrative vaginal intercourse.You are no wiser, more mature or otherwise changed from who you were minutes beforehand; the only difference is that you now have a set of memories that you didn’t have before and the need to shower and change the sheets.
Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.
Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.
Once upon a time, he was trying to illustrate why free dating sites were “better” than paid dating sites, but it was clear that he was advocating for Ok Cupid.
But the same way I try to lay out best practices for dating and relationships while allowing for many exceptions to the rules, I think we’d all be well served to pay attention to how people really act when no one’s looking instead of taking their word for it. Men are attracted to women who are at their most fertile.
Is doesn’t matter if the man is 50, already had kids, and has virtually no chance of being with a 20 year old.